I have a friend who is very successful. He makes probably between 500-700k per year depending on the business that year. He is in storm repair work. Before that he was in mortgages and made a lot of money doing that as well. He is always spinning what he does as fun, exciting and amazing no matter what it is. I remember him telling me how awesome he was when he was dead broke after the mortgage business collapsed. At the time I just thought his ego was out of control. Now I know he was just using some sort of mind trick on himself to move him forward where he needs to be. I have never talked to him about this and he probably knows he is doing on some level but not really. It is just how he does it.
I remember the first time I saw the cracks appear in the “self help” façade sold by Tony Robbins and the like. I was a true believer in Mr. Robbins at one point. I used his program and things did change. But it wasn’t really a solid strategy like he tries to sell. It was the motivated state he put me in that helped. I have never understood this. He tries to position himself as a “coach” and strategist when in reality he just motivates people. He knows this. Why the bullshit then? I don’t know.
I had been using and listening to his material for some time when I realized he was just selling mind tricks. The same type my friend uses. They worked for him sure. But they might not work for everybody. Nothing wrong with selling your little tricks you use on yourself to make you successful. What rubs me the wrong was is presenting them as “conditioning” and programming. They are motivational mind tricks and nothing else.
When I finally came to this realization I felt like a sucker. Like I had been played. I had. Most successful people have their own tricks and use their own ideas, not someone else’s. Solid business strategies and focusing on growth of sales, profits, etc. are much more productive then shooting for the stars and hoping you hit a home run. But this is the thing.
People don’t want to hear about sales and profits. They want to hear about magical strategies and see your car, yacht, house, etc. Tony and others like him know this. They use this to get people to think if they do these same things then maybe they too might have a house overlooking the ocean. But more often than not, this is not the case. People like Mr. Robbins are super, ultra driven and motivated people. I would guess you could put a guy like him in any sales position and he would be making a million a year in short order. Most people are not this motivated and don’t have this much energy.
The first program I listened to him he went on and on about how he had a house by the ocean and a stretch limo within months of applying the things he was teaching. What he didn’t say was that he didn’t own that house. He covered his ass in a later program and said that he really thought it was his so it was (or something like that). He was renting it and then after saying on live TV that it was his house he worked out a rent to own sort of thing so he wouldn’t seem like a charlatan for saying it was his house. Then I watched a a&e biography of Tony and his friend stated that he was hustling every day and week to make his payment on this house. I understand why he did this. He built this image and sold it. I ain’t mad. I am just trying to give you the truth. Build your own brand. Make your own rituals and tricks. Use people like this to inspire you but don’t buy into the bullshit.
I am not bashing Tony Robbins. I like his message and if you emulated him you would probably see better results in like and business. He definitely has something to offer to people. He definitely is successful. I am just saying. Read between the lines and see him and others like him for what they are. They are hustlers. Motivators. Hard workers. Driven people. They got to where they are by working really hard at what they do: motivate people. They don’t have any strategies which will perform magic in your life.
Here is the greatest and most profound way to change your life and I somewhat learned it from Tony Robbins. Take two things which you need to change in your life and decide, really DECIDE, to change them right now. Then write down a few things you can do to start changing them today. Then write three things everyday you can do to change these things. People quit smoking, lose weight and make more money just by doing this simple exercise and you don’t need a seminar to do it. Get a pen and a paper and get started right now. Today.
Create your own little mind tricks. When you find something that works repeat it over and over and over again. This is what successful people do. I am here to spread the truth and give you advice that works, plain and simple.